Why boundaries (not isolation) are the key to feeling safe with humans again.
As sensitive animal lovers, we feel everything – especially from people. After all, people have such a wide range of emotions.
They can be angry, bitter, resentful, hurtful and so many other things. (And when it comes to the manipulative personality of a narcissist, empaths really feel it to their core.)
Our reaction is to retreat to our animals, because we feel their unconditional love. Their emotions aren’t all over the place, unless we’re talking about an excited dog that happily wags their tail and jumps up and down when they see us.
We can count on animals to understand us without saying a word. They never talk back to us.
When we do talk to them, they seem to listen in an understanding way. They never tell us we’re wrong.
And the truth is, we can count on them to be there for us until they cross over to that proverbial rainbow bridge. They can seem like that one constant in our life, and are like a four-legged furry grounding device that keeps us steady through life’s ups and downs.
So it only makes sense that we turn to them when times get rough. And sometimes, we turn away from people.
Because as empaths we feel so deeply, we can either become a people pleasure in order to help ease our own pain that we feel from others, or we can become isolated. We do this to avoid the toxic world and to try to find peace.
But eventually, that desire for safety and peace can turn to loneliness. After all, we’re only human; and humans need each other.
It’s a survival mechanism to lean on others to help us out in life. It’s hard to get through life without a support system we can rely on.
Sometimes it comes in the form of family. Sometimes it’s friends with similar values, and other times it can be a church community or a club that has the same interests.
Humans help us in ways that animals can’t. We all have different talents, and those talents come in handy for specific needs that we have.
Other people offer support to us; including physically, mentally and emotionally. It’s hard to admit it, but the support that we get from other humans is a good thing.
So how do we deal with a situation where people can be so energetically draining, and sometimes downright annoying? How do we stay in balance without isolation and loneliness?
And that’s the challenge for the empath: Creating boundaries. After all, we have a tendency to be healers. We want to help.
We want others to feel better, and we want to ease their pain. So turning away from people is counterintuitive to who we are.
So instead of thinking of boundaries as barriers to people, we need to reframe it to “healthy boundaries”. Because there’s a fine line between being helpful, and becoming a doormat. (Been there, done that.)
As a sensitive empath, we can easily burn out. When that happens, we’re not only ineffective at helping others, but helping our beloved animals as well.
So how do we create healthy boundaries?
Well beautiful soul, it’s time to tap into and TRUST that powerful intuition of yours. Because sometimes we’re not connected to it, or we don’t listen because of perceived mistakes from our past when we DID listen to it. (Been there, done that too.)
Really feel into that emotional guidance system you have. If something doesn’t feel right, then don’t do it.
If you’re starting to feel burned out, then it’s time to take a break. Really LISTEN to your inner guidance, and follow what it’s trying to tell you.
And above all, don’t feel guilty around saying “no”. It’s time to let go of shame, guilt, remorse or any other regrets.
You have every right to protect yourself. Otherwise, you’ll run the risk of being unhappy and emotionally fried, which will leave you ineffective at helping anyone.
Learn to preserve your energy and your sanity. Allow yourself to do what makes YOU happy, because then you’ll be at your best.
It’s perfectly alright to be true to yourself. In fact, you HAVE to for your own survival and sanity.
Consider this guidance as permission to draw the line in the sand. And when you do, the world will be a better place because of you and your powerful gifts.
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You don’t have to walk this path alone.
Your animal is still guiding you — and I’m here to help you hear them.
With love,
Kathleen
