Why self-respect can’t be outsourced to work, family, or love
Perhaps it’s because we’re only human, that we can have expectations from others. After all; we had a mother when we were born, and hopefully she gave us the unconditional love we needed.
But, we can’t always expect this from others. And as sensitive; loving beings, we might think that others will treat us the way we treat them.
Unfortunately, when we have these expectations, we set ourselves up for heartbreak or disappointment. Because the truth is; people aren’t perfect, they have busy lives and they may not be as considerate as we are.
They may have various issues they’re dealing with (including trauma), and can’t return the love that we’re showing them. Even when it comes to others like empolyers, we can’t expect them to treat us in the kindest way.
After all, business is business, and generally they’re in it for themselves. A business needs to survive, and many employers see it as a one-way street: The business is the priority. (Unless the business is run by someone like Richard Branson who says: “Clients do not come first. Employees come first. If you take care of your employees, they will take care of the clients.”)
This concept of not depending on others for our own happiness is universal. Because the truth is:
If you depend on others to honor you, you risk being disappointed. Honoring yourself puts you in the drivers seat.
So…
- If you’re waiting for that holiday gift from a loved one, who maybe forgot because they’re busy putting out fires in their own life.
- If you’re looking for that raise from the employer who’s trying to stay afloat in this difficult business world.
- If you’re hoping people will respect you and your needs; you may be in for a rude awakening.
Because life is unpredictable, and we can’t rely on others to fulfill us. This is why taking care of ourselves is crucial, so:
- Buy that gift for yourself that you really want.
- Give yourself a raise by doing the things you love.
- Fulfill your own needs and desires because only you know what they truly are. (Don’t assume that others should know what it is.)
Self-honoring comes first. Doing the things that will fill your cup and your desires without expecting it from others will not disappoint you.
If you’re looking to increase your self-worth, this is the direction to go in. Learn to trust yourself and the consistency of always caring for you. (Other people may not always be there for whatever reason.)
When you put yourself first, you’ll feel happier and more secure. Your health will be better, because maybe you’re eating emotionally, or using another unhealthy habit to self-soothe the disppointment in your life. (Those habits go away when you honor yourself.)
In fact, I’ll go as far as saying that honoring yourself can save your life. Because you won’t be the “sacrificial lamb” that’s always putting others first, and feeling horrible because you were overlooked. (That’s not good for your health.)
So we’re talking self-preservation here. We’re really looking at changing the world and making it better, because you ARE a changemaker and we need you in the world.
Self-honoring means that as a result; you help people, animals and society in a way that only you can. Without your support through self-honoring and the resulting self-care, the help and support won’t be there for others.
So do us ALL a favor, and respect the beautiful soul that you are. We need you and the special love that only you can give when your cup is full.
Honoring yourself isn’t a one-time decision—it’s a practice you return to again and again. Each choice to listen inward, set a boundary, or pause before depletion is a way of reclaiming your energy and your truth.
For Animal Empaths, this is how meaningful impact becomes sustainable. This is how care turns into wisdom.
This is Impact Without Self-Sacrifice.
If you feel called to explore what honoring yourself could look like in this season of your life, I invite you to schedule a complimentary Clarity & Purpose Call with me. Along with supportive conversation and intuitive guidance, I often share channeled animal wisdom—messages that arrive to illuminate what you most need to understand, release, or reclaim.
👉 Schedule your complimentary Clarity & Purpose Call here:
https://ClearlyBlissful.as.me/Clarity
You don’t have to figure it all out at once. You just have to stop abandoning yourself.
